I can’t tell you how many times in my life that I was mistaken for someone else. I joke and tell people that I have many dopplegangers around, even one that is about 30 miles from me. I get the “oh hiiiii..(insert name), oh I’m sorry you look like this person I know.”
It has happened in every state I have lived in and on more than one occasion. It happens online all the time. I’m not a person that stands out, my voice doesn’t even carry that well. I can see a friend maybe 20 paces ahead of me, I call their name and they don’t hear me. Do you ever get that “oh I’m sorry, I didn’t see you there..” that’s what it’s like. I just feel invisible.
I feel like I say, “me too” a lot more now. Even in different conversations, with different people I tend to say it. It’s like I don’t have a single thought my own because someone else has either said it or done it before me. It makes me feel like a fraud.
My question about all of this is where do I fit in when it comes feminism? If I’m not a person who stands out why does my opinion matter?
In the grand scheme of things my opinion is just that, mine. I can shout from the rooftops that all people, no matter their gender or how they identify, should have equal rights.
Will I be heard? Honestly, I don’t think so. I’m a privileged person so I’m glossed over. I will stand with you though, at a rally or protest, and I will sign the petition you are sharing for equal rights. I will be supportive when you come out to your family or friends. I will give you the hug you need, when you are crying, because of something hateful someone said. I will go with you and hold your hand if you are too afraid to go to a Pride event alone.
I’ve done many of those things and I will do them again and again for whomever needs it. Does that make me a feminist? I really don’t know. I do know that even though I often feel like a shadow, I’ll be the shadow supporting you and rooting you on.